CAN YOU HAVE IT ALL?

They say (whoever "they" are) that the key to juggling is to keep throwing and that's how I've been dealing with life lately. Between spending 10 hours at my day job, attending events, going to school on a Saturday, being in a committed relationship, trying to manage family time as well as shoots for the blog on a Sunday, the occasional beauty appointments which has now turned into DIY due to lack of time, not to mention my dogs which I've totally been neglecting lately; I guess it's safe to say that I could use an additional arm or two to juggle everything. All this chaos poses a question: can I have it all? If so, how do I get there?

What does it really mean to have it all? The answer depends heavily on our personal goals and the aspects of life we feel are most important to us. For some of us it means doing what we love every single day so that we never have to work a day in our lives, to experience the most beautiful parts of the world to open up our minds to the customs and cultures of others; in the same breath to experience the not so beautiful parts of the world to truly appreciate life, to grow our businesses to great lengths, to make a difference in the world and leave our footprints in the sands of time. Most of us want all of this and more, perfectly wrapped up in a bouquet, delivered to our doorstep and off we go to enjoy the rest of our lives; stress free, pain free and free of our daily roles and responsibilities.

The thing about trying to have it all is the amount of sacrifice it takes to eventually get there. When life becomes challenging, I tend to resort to reading, it seems to be the only thing that keeps me sane in a world that tends to drive me insane. That's how I came across this lesson:

"LIFE IS DIFFICULT! This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult - once we truly understand and accept it - then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.

In my undying attempt to have it all, added to my self-inflicted pressure of getting "older", I've learned two things:

  1. Life is difficult and equally unfair to each of us
  2. You can have it all if you're willing to delay gratification

The age of instant gratification has obscured our view on what we deem as success. With social media at the centre of our lives, it's easy to come across as having it all, only sharing what's good and beautiful about our lives. What people don't see is the blood, sweat and tears it takes to get there and the fight to stay there. Does anybody really have it all? My plea to you is to go easy on yourself, forget about the Instagram moments of others and focus on your inner self, after all it's the only thing you'll be left with once you've been striped of worldly tendencies. Perhaps the concept of having it all merely exists in our minds.